# Went to a meeting the other day but Im still **URL:** \ **Category:** Hotline\ **Created:** [December 4, 2020, 10:00pm UTC](https://forum04.loosid.cc/t/went-to-a-meeting-the-other-day-but-im-still/1669 "2020-12-04T22:00:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![liz88117](https://forum04.loosid.cc/user_avatar/forum04.loosid.cc/liz88117/32/50396_2.png) [@liz88117](https://forum04.loosid.cc/u/liz88117)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 10:00pm UTC](https://forum04.loosid.cc/t/went-to-a-meeting-the-other-day-but-im-still/1669/1 "2020-12-04T22:00:19Z")
Went to a meeting the other day but Im still a bit confused. With time I think Ill understand it more. Im still confused as to what a sponsor is and how to get one? I thought they were more like therapists? Lol ---
**Author:** ![larry90373](https://forum04.loosid.cc/user_avatar/forum04.loosid.cc/larry90373/32/13085_2.png) [@larry90373](https://forum04.loosid.cc/u/larry90373)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2020, 11:28am UTC](https://forum04.loosid.cc/t/went-to-a-meeting-the-other-day-but-im-still/1669/2 "2020-12-05T11:28:38Z")
Hi Liz! Sponsors are people that can help you along the path of sobriety with wisdom and knowledge. Preferably one who has been sober quite awhile. I suggest you find a woman who is a veteran of sobriety. Go to meetings, work the steps. If you have any questions, myself or others that you prefer would be glad to help. Just ask. ---
**Author:** ![erik88079](https://forum04.loosid.cc/user_avatar/forum04.loosid.cc/erik88079/32/57361_2.png) [@erik88079](https://forum04.loosid.cc/u/erik88079)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2020, 6:12pm UTC](https://forum04.loosid.cc/t/went-to-a-meeting-the-other-day-but-im-still/1669/3 "2020-12-05T18:12:22Z")
I would say a sponsor is more of a mentor type. They have been through the program and now are of service to others. The real neat thing is that actually being a sponsor is part of their program. So it is mutually beneficial:) ---
**Author:** ![jory63864](https://forum04.loosid.cc/user_avatar/forum04.loosid.cc/jory63864/32/12998_2.png) [@jory63864](https://forum04.loosid.cc/u/jory63864)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2020, 2:32am UTC](https://forum04.loosid.cc/t/went-to-a-meeting-the-other-day-but-im-still/1669/4 "2020-12-08T02:32:48Z")
Never had much luck with sponsoring either way. I think the idea is just an AA friend that’s there to help. Don’t think of it as an authority figure. Just my humble opinion. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![rachel80588](https://forum04.loosid.cc/user_avatar/forum04.loosid.cc/rachel80588/32/4225_2.png) [@rachel80588](https://forum04.loosid.cc/u/rachel80588)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2020, 5:50pm UTC](https://forum04.loosid.cc/t/went-to-a-meeting-the-other-day-but-im-still/1669/5 "2020-12-10T17:50:30Z")
A sponsor is not your therapist & def don’t rely on them to coddle u or anything- a therapist will support you and tell you what you want to hear most times BUT a sponsor is there to aid you and take you through the steps. A good sponsor will not co-sign you and call you on your BS, they’ll have you call them almost every day & take you through the steps fairly quickly. be prepared for some hard truths as we are very selfish people in early sobriety / active addiction. As you work the steps those defects will be removed though. I’m so grateful for my sponsors kicking my butt I am a completely different person than I was in early sobriety & have been so blessed with a new way of living!!! message me if you have any questions 💜💜💜